Telling a person with dementia that someone they love has passed away can be a very emotionally draining task. The person may have to be told again and again, may still be shocked and may mourn the loss seemingly for the first time, more than once.
Losing a spouse is one of the most painful experiences one can go through. You may feel completely numb, or in shock; the world may pause around you. Losing a loved one changes your entire life, especially when the loved one was also your best friend. You may feel lost and stuck, uncomfortable making even the most minor of decisions. But your life does not stop there; many things have to be handled and closed which the surviving spouse may find overwhelming.
Death is inevitable but consoling a loved one who has lost his/her spouse becomes more difficult when the deceased is your parent. Helping and comforting your parent while going through your own loss can be very challenging at an emotional level.